I quote from the article:
- . . . the optimal parent is one who is involved and responsive, who sets high expectations but respects her child's autonomy.
- Hanging back and allowing children to make mistakes is one of the greatest challenges of parenting.
- If you can't stand to see your child unhappy, you are in the wrong business.
- When we do things for our children out of our own needs rather than theirs, it forces them to circumvent the most critical task of childhood: to develop a robust sense of self.
- But we must remember that children thrive best in an environment that is reliable, available, consistent, and noninterfering.
- Parents also have to be clear about their own values. Children watch us closely.