When you are raising and teaching children, it is hard to escape having to deal with bullying. Whether it is your own child or student, you often search for answers through emotion and anger. Such was the case for me a number of years ago when I wrote Grown-Ups Call it Harassment, and, yet, it wasn't until several years later when I read Deirdre Dolan's article "How to Be Popular" in the April 8, 2001 "NYTimes Sunday Magazine" that I understood that middle school students do have a sense of right and wrong, especially when it comes to making choices between caring for another student . . . even if it is not popular. I had the good fortune to connect with Deirdre to have her speak to the middle school students at BHMS.